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Are Our Values Truly this Misplaced/Misguided?

“He for whom Zeus the lord of thunder mixes the gifts he sends, will meet now with good and now with evil fortune; but he to whom Zeus sends none but evil gifts will be pointed at by the finger of scorn, the hand of famine will pursue him to the ends of the world, and he will go up and down the face of the earth, respected neither by gods nor men.”
~Homer, The Iliad

Lots has been said in the past 2 or 3 days about a trophy hunt in Zimbabwe and the dentist who shot a lion. A lion that foreigners are seem to have been enamored with and are now enraged about although the locals don’t seem to know or care. We hunt for meat not for grins so I’m not in agreement with the hunt whether it was legal as the dentist maintains or whether he was duped into an illegal hunt as he maintains. Either way, hunting to kill rather hunting to thin an over-sized population and/or food is not something I agree with. Something else I don’t agree with is the witch hunt now taking place on Social Media.


That the fury on social media has caused the man to close his dental practice is appalling to me. The group bullying mentality is horrifying for a number of reasons but what most concerns me is no one seems to be worried about the people the dentist employees who now seem to have no job. I liked the comments in this article that discuss the debacle.

Are our values so misguided that we are willing to put people out of work over the death of a lion in another country – a country where inhabitants see lions are killers and to be feared – yet we don’t have the same fury and disgust and call to action to save starving children in that same country?

Insurance and Idiocy


Last week the U.S. Supreme Court upheld the Affordable Care Act, i.e. ObamaCare. There are some things I like about the ACA but there are many things I don’t like about it, including the cost. My major objection is it seems to have put the insurance companies in charge and that’s a bit like the fox guarding the hen house. From where I sit, the insurance companies don’t want to pay out anything even though we pay in. About once a quarter we get a letter from our insurance company asking me (or Terry) to fill out information to see if we are eligible to file for disability. I call them each time and say take us off this mailing list. I had one employee tell me they do this to “insure they aren’t paying out on claims someone else could be paying for instead” of them.

I spend too much of my time talking to insurance company employees and insurance specialists at doctor’s offices.

My favorite conversation about insurance was with a young man at our dermatologist’s office. When I told him we had a Traditional Plan he was totally and absolutely befuddled. He told me he didn’t think they “took that plan”. I assured him they did and he assured me again that he didn’t think “they took that plan”. After several minutes of this back and forth conversation I told him to check with a supervisor. He let me know insurance was his business but eventually he went to ask someone whether he could schedule my appointment based on a Traditional Plan. He came back quite startled that they did, indeed, “take that plan”.

He was even more startled when I asked him if he was between the ages of 25-30. He replied to the affirmative (27 at the time). I then gave him a history lesson in insurance including what used to be the norm and is now called Traditional Plan along with the advent of HMOs and PPOs which have ballooned into the world during in his lifetime.

Note to those in charge: Teach your employees the business before letting them lose on the world especially if my money – be it tax money paying for something or my private funds – is involved.

10 Polite Things People Just Don’t Seem To Do Anymore

This article is speaking in general terms. I know many people, myself included, who still do all of these things but I numbers 4 and 5 especially attracted my attention. This has been going on for years. Kristie invited 15 people to her 12th birthday party. We received only 1 RSVP and only 2 children showed up. I hear people complain about this no RSVP thing all. the.time. What is so hard about calling or sending a RSVP? Ridiculous.

I sort of understand the hats but it’s still not a good thing. In decades past there were rooms to store one’s hat in when one went into a building or restaurant. Now they just sit on people’s heads. I still think it’s tacky.

No matter your age, whether you’re a boomer or a millennial, you might have noticed that people’s manners just aren’t what they used to be. As kids, we wouldn’t have dared call someone older than us by their first name. It was always Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so. And our mothers drilled in us the habit of saying please and thank you. We asked our Facebook friends about the polite niceties we hardly ever see anymore and we got a massive response. Check out the list below.

4. RSVPing to events.

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Since when was “maybe” or no response at all an appropriate response?

5. Taking off your hat indoors.
Show some respect.

Read the other 8 here:

Stupidity Continues…Do They Plan to Arrest Him for Attempted Kindness?

Man Helps Child Now Police Have Put Out an APB for him.

Alexandria, VA: From a country gone crazy with mandemonium (pandemonium sparked by seeing a man near a child) comes this all points bulletin, below. Notice that while “At no time did the unknown man attempt to leave the area with the child,” the police nonetheless give a detailed description of the suspect…er…Samaritan…er…suspect.  And they are looking for leads.

What are they going to charge him with? Attempted kindness? Doesn’t he know better than to act like a decent human being?

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Weird Conversation



Dear Person Who Hurt My Feelings,

It never occurred to my husband and me we would need to explain ourselves but, after our 2 encounters and conversations I have changed my mind.

Two years ago, Terry and I set up 2-$1500 scholarships in memory/honor of my dad and my uncle. Both AHS graduates, parents of AHS grads, and grandfather’s AHS grads, they died within 12 weeks of each other in 2012. The scholarships are awarded to students who plan to go to a trade/vocational school.

I am still shocked you accused us/me of encouraging students to not go to college/pursue higher education. To PAY them not further their education, I believe you said. Although you kept interrupting me I tried to explain to  you that we know that college is not a good fit for everyone and not everyone wants to go to college. Without skilled trades our country would not be able to function. No welders, no plumbers, no chefs, no electricians, no cosmetologists, no utility linemen, no lots of things. As a country we no longer have the plethora apprenticeships of 150 years ago where young people could learn a trade by doing. We don’t even have the method that my dad and my uncle learned on their jobs as a Texas Electric (now Oncor) lineman who became a General Foreman or Arlington Fire Department fire-fighter who became a Lieutenant. I understand you were extremely unhappy with everything I said and I heard you each time you let me know “others feel the same way” including AHS faculty and staff. I haven’t spoken to anyone else who tells me they feel the same as you but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

For a long time before we were actually were able to set up the scholarships Terry and I (along with our kids and children-in-law) talked and prayed about setting up the Skilled Trades Scholarship. I am not going to apologize for our scholarships; we think they are very important for those young people who earn them. No, our recipients are not in the top 2% of their class but that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve help furthering their education, albeit in a non-traditional school.

If you have a concern about “the message which is being sent to our young people” with these scholarships please contact my husband, Terry. He doesn’t cry as easily as me and he says he’d love to speak to you.


Kathy Havins


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